At 35, I started directing movies and it did feel like I was suddenly turning the ship in a different direction. And the panic of — I, you know, I studied acting. I didn’t go to film school. So I had a lot of insecurity about that lack of traditional education. And I felt that it would be fraudulent to do that — I couldn’t possibly. But the anxiety that everyone confronts when they consider pivoting is about this sense of, “But am I, am I allowed to do this? Do I have permission?” There’s that great Nora Ephron commencement speech where she says, “Just remember, you can always change your mind.” Don’t be frightened, you can always change your mind. I know. I’ve had four careers and three husbands. And I remember being so liberated by that one comment. It’s very true. Trying something different and the potential risks of that can be very scary. I just think – Yeah. not everyone is comfortable making that leap. – When did we decide that you had to figure out your whole identity by 24? Like, pick your partner, pick your career, pick your identity and if you change it’s a little bit suspicious. It’s a little bit, it’s a little chaotic. I mean, what would people do with their lives if they felt like they were allowed to change careers and change who, you know, versions of themselves past college? – Yeah. But then where is the line between, you know, selfishness and making changes that also, like, other people can adapt to? Do you know what I mean? I do except that we can’t deny we are changing. You are changing. So it’s not a decision to change. It’s a decision to acknowledge the change. Yeah, yeah. I’m just thinking like, if I showed up at my house on Monday. It’s like, “I’m like a leather jacket guy now. Everyone get used to it.” – “Get used to it, this is the new me. – Yeah, yeah. I’m leather jacket Dave now.”
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